Relationship Counseling

Are you struggling in your relationship or marriage? Frustrated? The same old issues, hurts and arguments keep coming up? Or maybe your relationships aren’t even working out? Relationship counseling or couples counseling can relieve you of your stress by increasing positive communication, addressing the underlying issues and deepening intimacy and connection. You will learn new skills, gain clarity, understanding and trust. If you are not happy in your relationship, ask your partner to go to counseling with you. If they will not go, go by yourself. Your life is too precious to put off improving it.

Relationship Counseling Improves Relationships

crying lonely long-haired blonde girl at homePeople tend to go in and out of relationships when things get tough. It is natural even in the greatest relationship to hit a period where communication and intimacy just aren’t working. Many partners begin to feel hopeless, some close down, others begin to look elsewhere. A good couples therapist can provide a safe place to find clarity, express yourself, and open up new understanding and communication. No matter how bad things have gotten, no matter how much arguing and separation, trust and love can be restored, if both parties are willing to show up in a counseling session together.

Begins with Self

All relationship begins with Self. Without a good relationship with one’s self, it is difficult to have a deep, healthy relationship with another person. Sometimes I see people separately in individual counseling before we begin couples counseling. Many relationships can be improved by seeing only one person. Each individual and couple is unique, we discover together what will work best.

Love Partners

I work with love partners of all orientations. All relationships have the same foundation and need of love, joy, connection, support, safety, trust, security, respect, good communication, and healthy boundaries.

Finding the Right Partner

closeup of loving couple holding hands while walking at sunsetMaybe you are not even in a relationship, or your relationships keep failing. Relationship counseling can help you find out what is going on. We will take a look at your history and clear the patterns that keep repeating. You will become clear on what you want and learn how to go about fulfilling your desires. It is often about building self confidence and releasing anxiety. Whatever is blocking you from finding and forming a really healthy, wonderful, fun, happy relationship, we will discover it and resolve it so you can be in the love relationship of your dreams.

Marriage and Family

I enjoy working with couples. People come to me with all kinds of issues, though underneath everything is a desire for a better relationship, greater love and happiness. People want a more loving relationship and a greater connection with their partner, as well as their children, in-laws and relatives. Children can be very negatively affected by parents who are not happy and not getting along. When couples resolve long standing disagreements and learn to communicate well, their children benefit greatly.

Separation and Divorce

Sometimes we will conclude that it is better to separate or get a divorce. I support my clients through this often painful process. There are so many things to consider. This is not an easy decision, especially when we have children. I know, I have been through it. Though what is most important is what is best for everyone’s highest good. What is most important for ourselves and our children, is that everyone is safe, healthy, happy and living a fulfilling life.

Sex and Intimacy

Underlying the focus and tension in many relationships are issues of sex and intimacy. Creating a safe, comfortable space where everyone can trust being fully heard and expressed is tremendously important. It takes a lot of sensitivity, ease and care on the part of the therapist. The result is greater intimacy and sexual satisfaction for the individuals and couples I see in therapy. I welcome all sexual orientations.

Relationship Communication

Conscious communication skills help everyone to be heard and understood. I think this is one of the greatest gifts I give to individuals and couples during relationship counseling: teaching simple, effective, good communication skills. Good communication skills are often lacking and the cause of so many disagreements, separation and hurt. Learning to really listen and empathize with one another is the key.

Feelings

couple on a bench - two lovers sitting on a bench in a park and holding themselves by hands - concepts of autumn,love,togetherness, relationshipHere we have the most important factor in healing relationships and the key to effective relationship counseling: helping each partner know, sense, feel and express their feelings, in an emotionally safe environment. Learning to become vulnerable, sharing vulnerabilities, and empathizing with each others vulnerabilities is the single most important factor that creates and sustains healthy relationships. This is where the magic happens. When the fear and defenses come down, and hearts open, love and strong bonds return, and life becomes so much easier and more fulfilling.

Some Signs You Should See A Relationship Counselor

  • When there are on-going arguments
  • Talking together is not happening or is often negative
  • There is little to no affection or intimacy
  • Secrets are being kept from each other
  • Someone is having an affair or thinking about it
  • You feel abused or degraded
  • You are unhappy in your relationship but fear change, or are afraid to communicate your feelings to your partner

Are You Ready?

I realize it can be scary. Many people feel it is a failure to go to couples counseling: “We should be able to do it on our own without relationship counseling.” Or, “Couples therapy is for people on the verge of divorce.” These kinds of statements are common. Though really, if we could all do it on our own, why are so many people unhappy and experiencing stress in their relationships? To allow it to go on is very unfair to ourselves, our partners, and our children.

portrait of a happy mature couple sitting in fieldWhere did we learn how to have great relationships? By trial and error? Most of us were taught by the experiences and examples we grew up with. Most of us end up one day in situations that are painful and confusing and we don’t understand why. Relationship counseling is a place to learn and to grow. It is a great gift to give yourself and your partner.

Whether you are early in a relationship, seriously dating, or already married, there are numerous benefits to participating in relationship counseling with your partner. And if he or she won’t go, you should go by yourself. Individually or as a couple, there are numerous benefits to increasing your capacity for greater connection, communication, intimacy and love.

There are trained and gifted couple therapists and counselors that can help you create a more fulfilling life. Contact one today, you will likely end up feeling really happy that you did.

Visit my contact page to schedule a complimentary session, and no longer settle for anything less than a truly great, fulfilling relationship.

Wishing you happiness and love,

Timothy Long

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